Two weekends ago I was enjoying a lovely time with my son. It was perfect… We were basking in the sun enjoying a great time in our favourite café. I then decided to check my e-mail and my mood and enjoyment changed in an instant. I received a frustrating e-mail from a trainer and I became agitated in front of my son. Not only did I ruin my experience but more importantly I negatively impacted our time together.
There was absolutely no reason to check my phone. Had I been 100% present and immersed in the moment then I wouldn’t have ruined a perfectly beautiful experience. My insatiable desire to check my e-mail to feel important overruled a perfect time with the person I care most about.
I cared more about an e-mail than my son in that instant. I have caught myself out several times since this occurred. This happened the other night as I checked social media instead of enjoying bath time with my son. I lost focus and attention as I checked my phone whilst enjoying a conversation with a friend over coffee.
I am surrounded with the most amazing people and I’m not even fully present. I am missing great moments and experiences. I am allowing my whole state to be dictated by a phone.
Here’s some questions for you to ponder:
Are you fully present in every moment?
Are you checking your phone when you could be enjoying a conversation with a ‘real’ person?
Does your phone need to accompany you on every meal and outing?
I am not missing any more great moments or letting my mood be dictated by an e-mail or social media. I am incorporating boundaries and encourage you to do the same. Here are some of my strategies:
- Have a phone free day
- Delete social media from your phone
- Leave the phone at home or on flight mode when enjoying food or a drink
I know being present will lead to more great moments in life, greater connections and stronger relationships. It will lower stress, anxiety and I have no doubt productivity will improve. It will also enable ‘real’ relaxation. It’s the only way to live!